kitty and I created this website to help those who are new and learning and even those with years of experience. Knowledge is important no matter what "level" you see yourself at.

Through the years we have encountered many Doms, subs and switches. One thing that has continued to stand out is finding out the other person's preferences. Important questions should be asked and answered to ensure both parties know and understand what they are getting into, and that way they will enjoy the interaction. The first necessity in this lifestyle is complete honesty. Nothing should be hidden!

On some of the BDSM community sites with which we are involved, we often come across one VERY important question: "What questions should I be asking?" This site was created to help people in the lifestyle safely obtain knowledge about the lifestyle. There are no wrong answers. There are many kinks and everyone is free to explore without judgment.

Throughout this site you will find material such as:

1. A list of questions that you can answer and have saved to your profile for all to see.
2. Limits and safewords, how they should be used and what your options are.
3. Contracts: The good, the bad, the ugly.
4. BDSM community sites
5. Kink events and how to find them