Soft limits:A type of play or activity you probably have never done and are curious about. Until you've done it you can't be sure
if it is something you are willing to continue to do.
Hard limits:A type of play or activity that you will NOT do or will never do.
To someone just entering the lifestyle those words may make no since but it doesnt take away the importance of them. Your limits are what you may want to try or will never do. There does not have to be a specific reason behind it, your reason is enough. A limit can be anything that makes you uneasy. Certian types of play, implements, types of punishments etc. If your unsure what your limits could possibly be, limits include:
Once you have established what you are not willing to do it's your choice to detail it to your partner. Example: Not willing to do
asphyxiation however breath play is perfectly fine. Being lead around on a leash is wonderful but you dont want to eat from the floor, etc.
Don't be discouraged if you have no idea what your limits could be. If your new and just coming into the lifestyle everything may sound intriging
You may have never wanted to sit in a cage but now the idea excites you. I've met subs who have no limits. All play is fun for them.
Letting their Dom/Domme control all aspects of play. That takes an immense amount of trust between two partners.
If your unsure what other limits exsit (there are so many!) the internet has many sites that offer a full list of all possible limits.
When play is going in a direction where you feel you are in physical or emotional danger. When a safeword is spoken all play stops.
If the sub is tied and bound then the restraints are removed as quickly as possible. The sub is to be removed from the situation that has made the
safeword be called.
Two common safewords are red and yellow.
YELLOW: The play is starting to go in a direction you are unsure about. This is the time for the Dom/Domme to switch the play into
a safer direction.
RED: Play has to STOP right now!
The sub should feel confident enough to call out the safeword with out fear of punishment from the Dom/Domme.
If you are told that a potential partner does not "believe" in safewords then the play is not safe. You should be able to pause/ stop play when it becomes too much.
Safewords can be anything and should be something you will always remember, that in a time of distress that is one word you wont forget.